There is a famous saying that goes, ‘to err is human; to forgive, divine’. Although this holds true for every relationship, it works wonders for a marriage. Especially after the initial ‘honeymoon phase’, when each partner usually starts taking the other for granted.
But things slowly change when routine sets in, and spouses are unable to meet each other’s expectations. Therefore, the relationship goes through a lot of ups and downs. But a simple gesture of forgiveness can solve major issues. Take a look at how it can bring back the magic in your marriage.
When the honeymoon ends
In the first few years of marriage there is a lot of excitement, passion and intimacy between a couple. But later, unintentionally, both end up hurting each other’s emotions and feelings. This leads to conflicts, and each starts to play the power game to assert their points of view. But they forget that each individual has their own strengths and weaknesses. Such conflicts and clashes, many a times lead to breakups in relationships.
Unlike in the initial years, later on small arguments and conflicts are blown out of proportion, and this is the beginning of major clashes that can arise. Forgiving each other is often taken for granted in such cases. The thing to remember is that each person needs a lot of patience to control emotions like anger, deep hurt and ultimately forgive and forget. Instead of fighting it out, forgiving your spouse can help them realise their mistakes, and you both can learn to respect each other.
How the magic works
A major factor that can become an obstacle in forgiving each other in any marriage is ego. Once ego creeps in, you feel you are perfect and the emotional distance increases. On the other hand, letting go of small issues can help your partner feel free to open up even about their past mistakes. When seeking forgiveness becomes that easy, marriage becomes a shelter for both to confess about any wrong steps taken in life. Both of you then become a support system for each other, thus developing a strong bond.
Once the gesture of forgiveness is adopted, even conflicts can become healthy in a marriage. Remembering all the good things your partner has done for you, remembering all the nice and intimate moments you both shared begin to make a huge difference.